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How to raise a resilient child

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Bringing out children up to be resilient in today’s rapidly changing world, has always been a mission of ours. We’ve been very aware that there are fine margins between them being resilient without being unfeeling or uncaring. We have tried to encourage our girls to be in touch with their feelings but to be able to recognise when they are feeling some emotions and be able to deal effectively with them. We want our resilient children to be better equipped to navigate life’s challenges, bounce back from setbacks, and develop into confident and adaptable adults.

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On the whole, I would say we have been successful with our girls but we know it’s a constantly moving situation and who knows what situations could occur. So why do we search for resilience?

Encourage a Growth Mindset

One of the foundations of resilience is cultivating a growth mindset. We teach our children that challenges are opportunities for growth, and failures are stepping stones to success. Encourage them to embrace learning, persist through difficulties, and view setbacks as temporary setbacks rather than insurmountable obstacles. At least one of our girls is completely motivated by competition and will not let a difficult situation get the better of her.

Foster Strong Connections

Building strong and supportive relationships is essential for a child’s resilience. Encourage open communication, active listening, and empathy within the family. A child who feels secure in their relationships is more likely to develop a resilient mindset. Create a safe space where your child feels comfortable expressing their thoughts and emotions, knowing that they have a reliable support system.

Teach Problem-Solving Skills

Resilient individuals are adept problem solvers. This private school in Surrey recommends equipping your child with problem-solving skills by involving them in decision-making processes. Encourage them to brainstorm solutions to challenges they encounter, promoting critical thinking and creativity. This hands-on approach empowers children to take ownership of their problems, fostering a sense of control and resilience in the face of adversity.

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Promote Emotional Regulation

Helping your child understand and manage their emotions is integral to resilience. Teach them that it’s okay to feel a range of emotions, but also guide them in healthy ways to express and cope with these feelings. By promoting emotional regulation, you provide your child with the tools to navigate stress and setbacks without being overwhelmed. This skill becomes a cornerstone for resilience in the face of life’s inevitable ups and downs.

Cultivate Independence

Allowing your child to take on age-appropriate responsibilities fosters independence and resilience. We encourage them to make choices, solve problems, and learn from their experiences. As they navigate these responsibilities, they develop a sense of competence and self-efficacy, crucial components of resilience. Striking a balance between guidance and independence helps your child build the confidence to face challenges head-on – these skills are especially important throughout the teenage years when our children are gaining independence and learning the best way of dealing with situations themselves.

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Model Resilient Behaviour

Children learn by example, and as a parent, your behaviour significantly influences their development. Model resilience by showcasing how you handle challenges, setbacks, and stress. This is something that I can often find more difficult being scared of my own shadow in some situations! I do find that by demonstrating a positive attitude, perseverance, and problem-solving skills in my own life, this attitude passes onto my girls.

Raising a resilient child is a journey that requires a combination of mindset, skills, and supportive relationships. By instilling a growth mindset, fostering strong connections, teaching problem-solving skills, promoting emotional regulation, cultivating independence, and modelling resilient behaviour, parents can empower their children to thrive in the face of life’s challenges. Remember, resilience is a lifelong skill that begins with the nurturing environment you create for your child today. One thing I’m certain of, my girls are super equipped for what life throws at them and every day they learn more and more tips for getting everything out of life.

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Helen @ 2Adults3Children
Helen is a professional blogger, marketing manager and food writer. A former cake designer from near Liverpool, North-West UK. She loves to be found in the kitchen baking for her 3 daughters, aged 21, 17 and 13. Helen has developed a love for writing about the teenage years which are not nearly as bad as 'they say'. Sharing events for adults, children and couples across the North West.

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